If you listen to FM radio or watch MTV Base, BET, or SoundCity, you must be a fan of the top ten countdown just as I am. Many times, I have questioned the order in which the videos were presented. The only problem was that the producer never heard me.
There is a favorite countdown I wish to reel out in this post. Watch out for it, so it doesn’t land on your head like a coconut. Before I get into them, can I ask you a question?
Have you ever failed before?
I bet your answer is yes. But if you answered “No”, you have to prove it to me. But seriously, have you failed woefully, like three times in 7 weeks?! I have. That was my New Year gift from year 2013. It was a terrible time for me. My bubble burst; my banana was smashed; my passionate drive was quenched; my dreams were almost shattered. It was devastating. Let me not bore you with details of what happened those three times, but know this: those failures taught me some very valuable lessons that I will never forget for the rest of my life!
Here is the top ten countdown of valuable lessons from three woeful failures in the first 7 weeks of 2013:
Number 10: STAY IN CONTROL – Never give up control of your business to your customers or prospects.
Resist the temptation of relying on your prospects or customers to know what your next move should be. Run the business, stay in-charge of your life, and don’t become a passenger.
Number 9: STAY COMPOSED – Don’t be too far out there in exuberance.
Good ideas command one’s enthusiasm, but you must keep yourself within the reach of reality. Don’t get so excited about space that you forget about the law of gravity. Keep reality before your very eyes.
Number 8: AVOID RISKY FOOLISHNESS – Don’t run into debt if you can avoid it (in fact I ran into many of those debts foolishly!)
Taking risk is inevitable in business and in life. Playing safe doesn’t prevent nasty stuff from happening, but you must resist the impulse to be foolish and irrational in decision-making. Don’t be foolish with risk.
Number 7: PLAY THE GAME – Entrepreneurship is a game; a game of trying out an idea to see if it will work; not a do-or-die affair.
Enjoy the process and pokes of your path in life. Games are to help us recreate while we reconfigure for the next challenge. Enjoy every bit of the show! Laugh at yourself often, and try to “confess” yourself.J
Number 6: BE FLEXIBLE – Don’t be egotistical. Stubbornly sitting on to a dead horse won’t make it run.
Whatever doesn’t work doesn’t work! Be open to new idea, especially from unlikely sources. Be creative and flexible. Rigid people lack a broad perspective. Don’t be too proud to try suggestions from others.
Number 5: BE POSITIVE – Redefine the failure to your advantage.
Never let the experience have the final say. Whatever you name the event is what it becomes. Make sure you have the final say; and ensure you customize it to favor your progress.
Number 4: SEEK COUNSEL – There’s always a wiser option that is more uncomfortable.
When Jimi Tewe told me to postpone, it was like the sun was crashing down on me! Good counsel is not supposed to be comfortable; it’s meant to make you comfortable.
Number 3: MAXIMIZE THE MOMENT – Failure is a treasure not a seizure.
Take advantage of whatever opportunity the moment carries within it. Though I failed, I took advantage of it to market our first 3-days workshop (which was highly successful) to the same prospects. Be crazy!
Number 2: LIVE, LOVE LIFE AND YOURSELF – Don’t punish yourself; enjoy life.
If you are goal-getter like me, you never stop half-way. And what if you stop like I had to stop? Move on. Buy yourself what you love to drink or eat. Go swimming. Go on a date with your beloved. Sleep. Live life!
Number 1: STAY TENACIOUS ENOUGH – Never give up till it’s obviously dead.
Don’t give up until it is obvious nothing else can be done. Most people give up way too early. For me, I gave up after 4pm the day before the workshop was supposed to hold. Wait out your hope hours.
There it is! My top ten countdown of valuable lessons I learnt from a streak of critical failures within the first 7 weeks of 2013. I hope it helps you handle failure better, and avoid terrible aftermaths that accompany such failures.
You are an Icon!
To your effectiveness,
Adeleke David Adekunle